Why Do Women Keep Running Back to Their Baby Daddies

My ex-boyfriend and I both decided to proceed a break four months ago. Nosotros had been together for v years and just this past year we accept been arguing and fighting a lot and he is working all the time he was not giving me the attention similar he used to. We have a little girl together and nosotros were both existence civil effectually her. We both agreed maybe united states moving into seperate houses would help our human relationship and nosotros both agreed that we wouldnt motion on to another relationship. Nosotros too said we did not want another man or adult female around our child. Him and I were even so being intimate when I plant out that he had met another woman and he lied to me about her. I begged for him back and he told me possibly we demand to know nosotros arent tied down if that ways seeing other people and that he cant predict the future when I asked him if we will ever be together again he said nosotros may or non exist he deceit predict the future. He told me and family unit he wants to see where this relationship goes, but people are telling me he is keeping me on a string because he knows he tin can ever come back to me if this doesnt work. He fifty-fifty said that nosotros will be in each others lives forever because nosotros accept a child together. I went off the deep terminate and since then matters betwixt us accept gotten worse. He denied seeing this woman, who I might add is going through a divorce and has iii children. He told me, friends and family that he did not want to have anymore children and one was enough for him. He has besides been married in the past for 11 years before he met me. I am completley confused about this relationship and was blindsided. He says she makes him happy and they dont fence or fight like him and I used to. Just 2 weeks agone he said he missed me. I am getting mixed signals with him and Im to the point where I desire to get the courts involved for the welfare of our child. He had this adult female stay the nighttime at his house with my daughter at that place the other night. I dont know if this is a rebound relationship, especially because she has 3 children and he says he volition not have to be responsible for them because he is not the father. Any advice on this would be much appreciated I really am nonetheless deeply in honey with him and want to be with him it hurts seeing he has moved on so fast and not giving me another adventure. Is this a rebound, will this relationship last given the facts, and should I go the courts involved to become child support and a parenting plan in place? Whatsoever advice will be much appreciated. I have suffered from depression for quite some time and havent been happy with myself then I would have my unhappiness out on him and wanted him to be unhappy with me. I was likewise very clingy and questioned where he went all the time so nosotros argued a lot about these two things. Can he loose all feelings for me that quickly? I kept telling him we had a lot of good times/memories together I dont understand why he wont encounter that? The but other thing I am worried well-nigh him not coming dorsum is that this adult female is his friends girlfriends best friend. They all hang out all the time and my friends tell me that if he does interruption up with this woman then he would exist betraying his friend? I dont know what to think of that? Could he be over me completly to have moved on so fast? How practice I do the No Contact dominion when we have a child together? Is it possible he could love this woman and take on her kids?

#ii

ms.shells

viii years ago

Hi I'grand going through a similar state of affairs with my daughter's father. EXCEPT He got the new women meaning. We oasis't been together in 5 years and now he is calling and texting me telling me that he still loves me.I asked him if he was still in a relationship with the new women and he said yes. I'1000 so upset that information technology makes me sick to my stomach bc I was then in love with him but now he's trying to take his cake and eat it too. He doesn't even pay me kid support. I told him he doesn't accept to be with me to be in his daughter'south life. And he has the nerve to still keep persuing me

#three

8 years ago

Boot him to the curb equally many times as necessary for him to become the message. Block his texts. You lot don't need someone like that in your life. Stick to your guns. Don't even contend with him. Cake his number.
Simply get that child support.

#4

Heather

8 years ago

I am going through the exact aforementioned thing and we are going to court over our child. He was but at my business firm a few weeks ago trying to become me meaning and this week he tells me to leave him alone and he doesn't want me. I googled "how do you lot go your ex back" and the no contact rule is pretty much what every site is prescribing, and similar yous, I wondered how does that work when at that place is a kid involved? And so I have descided to contact his mother or aunt when we exchange the child. I'm going to avoid contact and work on getting my trunk, listen, and spirit in a ameliorate identify. I, like you, became extremely depressed about the loss of my family, particularly when I discovered there was another adult female! I have even gone to the doctor and took medication. I just don't think that works. I tried drinking him away, just that only gave me a bad reputation in the community. So I figured that I would try to listen to this no contact dominion equally best as I could. There was a website I really liked and it was written by a guy and he advised 30 days of no contact. That would give me fourth dimension to piece of work on the things that fabricated the relationship fail too. I'chiliad gonna become myself looking expert girl! I hope this works! Good luck with your relationship 😊 I feel your hurting considering you lot want the dream... Mommy, Daddy, Baby 😊

#5

girl

seven years ago

The aforementioned has happened to me my ex and his new girlfriend aee now haveing a kid together. And it is killong me inside. I accept no thought what to practise

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kansaqueen

vii years ago

Hi my opinion is that he hasn't been with this woman long enough to have arguments yet it seems...me n my ex started fighting all the time 2 years into our relationship. I've noticed with my ex who I was with for over 3 years n he is notwithstanding my best friend...that No ane adds up to him. Idk but I'm sure when he's with her he thinks of the things u both have done together and the things u both have in common. I've seen relationships like this one north unremarkably they don't last as he's put more baggage on his plate plus u both have something special together...a child. Just go on doing wat ur doing n maybe in the long run it will be where he wants u back. Good luck hun😊

#7

seven years ago

Howdy! I kind feel where you are coming from my husband of twenty years left about ii months ago. At present he is seeing someone else which I believe is a rebound relationship because he tells me I was the best matter that ever happened to him. I practice not know how old yous are but my I believe my husband is in the heart of a mid-life crisis because nosotros are dealing with his sick parents and our only child will exist eighteen this twelvemonth. I have a verse form to share with you If you really love someone, larn to wait. Mayhap you are not meant to be together today but meant to be in the future. Also another poem I read to assist me is Couples that are meant to be make information technology through things that are meant to tear them apart and come out stronger in the end. I not saying wait for ever only I believe he may exist in a rebound relationship as will as the woman he is seeing because she is going through divorce. But you actually know how much you meant to each other. I would try non to get the courtroom involve as long as he is helping y'all out and seeing your daughter only once more you lot are the only one who know how bad your personal situation is go with your gut. I practise non know if this helps just I promise it does. Rebound relationships and mid-life crisis are real. Information technology but depend if your love is potent enough to survive. I know a couple that got divorced and the husband saw other people but today after six years he is dorsum habitation with his ex wife. It all depends on yous are willing to go through to see if he returns.

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#8

Tiff

7 years ago

Then what happen??? I'grand thinking nearly doing this same thing no contact.

#9

7 years ago

Put your pes down when it comes to your child she doesn't know this new women nor if things volition piece of work or non!! Let him dig his own grave correct at present thy r both in the honey moon stage which is all good till real life kicks in and belive me it will if she is a rebound usally these types of relationships don't concluding though each i is diffrent!! So yous know u love him just exercise u retrieve u could trust him at all? But myself would become along with him for our kids but would motion on to someone who I could trust!!

#10

STEPHANIE

half-dozen years ago

I Desire TO Answer TO THIS BECOUSE MY Babe GIRL;Southward IS Request Nearly THIS OTHER Woman WHO I DONT KNOW WHO SHE IS AND IS DRIVING ME CRAZY I DONT Sympathise WHAT THIS Woman Do FOR MY KIDS BUT THEY HAPPEND TO Ask FOR HER ALL THE TIME AND I GET UPSET WITH AN ADDITUDE BECOUSE I NOW FEEL LIKE AM THE OTHER WOMAN IN MY KIDS LIFES I KNOW THERES NO WAY MY KIDS WOULD Replace THE Honey OF A Mother TO OTHER Woman WHO IS Non BUT AM Then Hurt THAT I Accept NO Thought WHAT TO Exercise Tin SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME IN THIS Situation?
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#xi

Brijk

6 years ago

Im going through the aforementioned affair. Me and my daighters father broke up ii weeks ago and he already has a new girlfriend !! He'southward talking about me and him are "really" done i shouldve changed along time agone and he wouldnt had found anyone else. But my thing is why movement on and then fast when we merely bankrupt up 2 weeks ago?! I keep telling him ill change and i merely want our family back. We been together for 4 years and he's acting similar he doesnt even intendance about me anymore ☹️ i dont know what to do at all at this betoken. Everyone is telling me to non telephone call nor text him for a couple weeks simply simply about our daughter & he'll notice me really being gone and might come up back. Can anyone please give me some advice. I want him back i hate knowing he's slewping with her and giving all his time with her instead of me.

#12

half dozen years ago

If you practice NMC (not much contact) brand the $.25 count, say something that boosts his ego "I'm getting on fine without you, though I'yard not sure I will ever find some other man who is as (make full in gap of what he thinks is his skillful points - hardworking, protective, trustworthy) equally you. " (happy on your own, not needy or drastic, only acknowledging things y'all value in him). See how that goes. Only mention his skilful features, don't bring up the negative ones.
No i wants to hear their negative ones.
If he doesn't come dorsum, so your life is open up to be with someone who doesn't ask YOU to change just works out problems with Nosotros need to make some changes or Nosotros need to try something new.

#13

About to pop

6 years ago

The human I was seeing and am having a kid with was seeing this woman before me, she had separated from her married man and apparently said she was going to take to get back to him for her kids. Well then several months subsequently she went back I started seeing the human being, and we're about to have a baby in less than 3 weeks, nosotros were together and in November she up and calls him and says she's leaving her husband, well she never did. Nosotros broke u0 when she told him that but around valentine's started seeing each other pretty much all the fourth dimension over again. I knew that he however talked to her some but hr had got to where he was basically staying with me all the time. Well it come.down to where he merely recently give her an ultimatum, if she wasn't going to leave her married man then he was done for proficient, he loved both of usa and it wasn't fair. Well estimate what, she took him upwards on it and left her husband, and since my babe daddy forced her into it she has no where to get so they immediately only moved in together. So here my baby daddy is in honey with both of united states of america, only says this is something he needs to do with her to encounter if it'll work, bc until he knows then I won't have hiss 100 % heart and that'due south not off-white to me or our baby. Whay am I supposed to do? I kmow someone's going to say he doesn't really beloved y'all blah, but he is a proficient honest human being and has been open with me about the whole state of affairs so delight recall that part too. I only need help.

#14

6 years ago

It's doubtful it will work out.... relationships based on infidelity rarely do, she was seeing him while married, later the initial excitement of having her.... he will beginning wondering who she is seeing when he goes out etc.
Now he'southward got her there, to wake up to every morning... sitting in his lounge room, the boob tube remote in her manus. snoring etc.. ... Hardly the heady cloak-and-dagger love affair anymore.
Just focus on your baby and ignore him a chip, don't return his calls for a few hours or look til adjacent day ... just proceed it minimum to share anything most the pregnancy/birth and exit it at that.
Don't stress.

#fifteen

Well-nigh to pop

6 years ago

Thank you for the advice. Being significant makes my emotions beyond crazy. We've stayed in contact every solar day since they've been together only one and during that time he's told me everything I mentioned in my post. I'm hoping that'southward a good sign, information technology's just hard to look it out. Some Women tin be vindictive, and I don't want her to play games to keep him with her instead of me

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Helper

6 years ago

Hey distressing I experience similar I've lived this scenario before merely I was in the new girl position. Perhaps I tin can give yous some type of perspective then you don't expect desperate every bit the ex I was dealt with. I suggest you immediately stop texting the miss and I want yous back texts / phone calls.. That'll only drive him closer to her and she'll probably know about them and may detect him more desirable. Only contact about the kids and be the mom your girls go along talking about . Make sure y'all avoid talking to his close friends bc they will dry snitch on you . Avoid as much drama then so she starts creating them in the relationship . And then sit dorsum and relax. Deplorable to hear what you've been through. The ex he had should've washed all this. Yet once again she too cheated , and so don't be the cheater. Expert luck

#17

Natasha

6 years ago

Forget what well-nigh people say to either surrender on him or try a manipulation. Read the book on beloved and respect. Practice being respectful to him and creating a meliorate life for you and your child. If information technology works with him great, if not y'all now have practiced the skills to wow the next man in a relationship. I got my child'due south father back even after he had a child with another woman during a break. He is worth it. Is your man? That's the only difficult decision. You got this!

#eighteen

Sanila

6 years ago

Hullo im goin through the same thing at present. My daughter is 4 at present and my babe daddy has a gf who looks like me as well merely an uglier version just he claims at times he cares for her but so wheb he hangs out with me he acts similar he loves me the near and nobody else. I hate him cuz he as well confuses my daughter and i dont know if hes doin information technology cuz he doesnf want me to movement on or that he feels actually bad bout this

#19

sugar.

6 years ago

Hi;I know exactly were your coming from im in this situation also; new partner or girlfriends will endeavor to purchase your kids with gifts and fun days out and convince them that they are the best at everything only that eventually wears out its like the "honeymoon stage" and its mostly for testify until they get tired of information technology; and deep down inside every childs eye and mind no one will ever exist their mum they will never forget yous;your so special to them and as long equally you tell them you dearest them no affair what yous volition exist the best person in the world merely exactly every bit they idea.and ps its painful to sit dorsum and wait but in the stop you will exist rewarded because you lot care e'er.

#20

sosad1

6 years ago

Wow...This is so what I'm goin thru rt now girl..Idk when this postal service is from, but please update and let me know how you handled it and what happened..Feels similar my world is crashing down around me . Aid! ☹️

#21

Ta'Liyah's Mommy

6 years ago

I'm too trying it ..I hope it works

#22

Lala

vi years ago

Did the avoiding handling work for anyone ? My child's begetter and I take been broken upwardly for 3 months .we have a one yr sometime. We been together for v years and hes been seeing this girl since we broke up . He said he's falling for her and everything. I'm pregnant right now 3 months and he doesn't want to tell her . He is with her all the time . I dear him . I don't know what to practice . Right now we keep things to a minimum on the talking . Idk what to retrieve .

#23

dermaur

6 years ago

Hullo all I'm the original poster. He concluded up marrying the person he left me for. We went thru a lengthy court battle he fought me in everything. I'm meliorate off without him, I'm over him and been happy living the single life. I'm over the hurt and pain information technology takes time. In retrospect I don't know what I saw in him haha. I'm just moving forward and focusing on my child and me. Hope all of you continue to be stiff for yourself and children.

#24

Lala

six years ago

How long were they together for ?

#25

Pinklemonade

6 years ago

Hi I tin can relate to you. I have a baby girl (9 months onetime) with baby begetter. Nosotros've been together near four years. Our anniversary was supposed to be on New Years. He left me most three weeks ago. Nosotros had no communication and had some disagreements. He moved to his parents house. I plant out yesterday he has been texting and calling his "friend" (girl) since the twenty-four hours he walked out the house. They've been texting everyday I know this considering I checked out phone company outgoing and incoming messages. It actually breaks my eye the fact that he might like her. I'm 22 years old and he is 23. I'm and then confused if I should move on and loose hope..

#26

dermaur

6 years ago

This happened in 2012. He'd been seeing her behind my back for a couple months as far as I know.

#27

Confused

6 years agone

I am too in the same situation I moved out six weeks agone it was my decision to get simply it was also a mutual determination for the benefit of our two boys. Nosotros were together for 11 years. The twenty-four hour period later on I moved out he joined an Cyberspace dating site. We spent xmas and new year together and nosotros take been getting on and then much better. iii weeks agone he started seeing a new gf. She is really actually prissy and I thought I was happy for him. Last night I had a major meltdown and realised I love him and only him and want us to be a family once again. He doesn't know has told me he has actually strong feelings for this woman later on just iii weeks. I can not grasp that he tin move on so fast he says he still loves me and still has stiff feelings for me two but if he had to make a decision today he would pick her. 3 weeks over 10 fantastic years and ane of a few hiccups.
It is do hard to practise the no contact or minimal contact we have kids together and a business organization together. I simply want him to meet what we could have together once more

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#28

TryingTOMOVEforwar d

6 years ago

Same thing happened to me. I'k going on a yr , I left him he is nevertheless with the woman he was cheating on me with. We were together for 8years . The hurting is even so there. It'southward hard when My baby boy ask me for him. It'southward so hard. But I have to be strong. Good to know I'm not the only one out In that location.

#29

Emily

6 years ago

I'm on the other side of things..I have to deal with jealous baby mama that wants MY fellow back..listen lady'south, if he were with yous would you want an ex before you trying to get back with him..obviously you 2 were not meant to be then move on and let him and yourself be happy

#30

proud mommy

5 years ago

Move on sweetheart y'all are however young and beautiful. he will come running to you in due time

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